By Ollus Ndomu
Money is one of the most discussed, often controversial aspects of boyfriend-girlfriend relationships. The money issue arises from many factors common of which include cab fares after visits, who pays during dates and how much one needs to earn before considering a relationship. These are topical issues that have dominated the social media discourse.
One other aspect of this money discussion is the practice of giving a girlfriend money at the end of every month for her up keep.
This money is actually known as Bae Allowance. This is allowance a guy gives his girlfriend at the end of each month for her random needs. This is good, isn’t it?
Nothing should stop anyone from giving money to his girlfriend. There is no law forbidding boyfriends from doing so just like there is no law about how frequent it should be or how much it should be.
There is nothing wrong for a man to want to spoil his woman in all manners he deems fit. If a monthly allowance is one of the ways he chooses to appreciate his woman’s presence in his life, then, no one should give such guy grief for that.
Actually men who do so are more admirable and respected among women. If you are one of this rarest breed of men, continue brother, it is something good.
Much as Bae allowance may be good, it should never be a relationship benchmark for anyone. Sister, if you are dating a man who gives you a monthly, weekly or daily allowance, it is important to understand that your man does it as a largesse and not a compulsory or widely-expected relationship standard.
Bae allowance is not on the same pedestal of relationship expectations as communication, honesty, gift-giving and others.
Appreciate any money you receive whether monthly or weekly. In fact every gift between partners must appreciated and not demanded as if there were contractual obligations.
Get it clearly lady, your boyfriend does not owe you any money, just as you do not owe him cooked meals or regular sex.
You man like you should do these things out of ability and want to do so. No one should be compelled to do them.
Demand those relationship things you are entitled. Things like honesty, communication, being touched and outings. A monthly allowance, as nice as it is, isn’t one of them.
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