What Keeps a Relationship? Is it Love?

Love is rarely the sole force that gives
a relationship survival. In fact, love cannot help you stick to one person all
years round, and on the other hand, cheating isn’t always a
product of not loving your partner. 
Let’s face it, loving someone
doesn’t guarantee not falling in love with someone else.
Relationships work out mostly because of our reasoning not our
feelings. It works out because of our emotional maturity,
empathetic intelligence and self-discipline because, time will
come when you’ll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic,
intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the
one you’re in a relationship with. In those times, love will not
help you, self-control will help you, emotional intelligence
will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you
going. With those characteristics
,no matter how you feel for
someone else, the person you’re committed to will rank first
in your life.
You think happily married people don’t see better people
than the ones they married? You think they don’t feel funny
sometimes? You think they don’t catch feelings? They do! But
understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is
the great arsenals that do destroy that impulse.
You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship
takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and
takes more than love. We are too fond of loving when it’s
convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is
there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of
the relationship. After then, you’ll realize that the feelings
have dropped, it’s now your responsibility to make it work,
not love’s responsibility.
Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it
and it’s never always about love, it requires commitment
and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it’s not just
love that keeps them together forever, its determination
and commitment.
Remember, everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that.

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Ollus Ndhom

Ollus Ndhom is the editorial chief at MuAfrica, a newbie online magazine. He is a self-driven and assertive youth with a belief in the power of words. His hobbies include writing commentaries, composing poems and serving God.

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